** Update as of 11/6 at end of post
Years ago I gave up on the idea of closure after being dumped. Closure is pretty much BS. You know why? Because you want the last word. But then your last word never ends up being good enough for the last word (if you are even given the opportunity) because you always think of something better later.
That, and the fact is being dumped, even if you were thinking of doing the dumping anyway, is a big ol’ bummer. No one likes to be left. Even if the person leaving is a big fat jerk anyhow.
On Twitter you can get dumped left and right. You look over and see your numbers of followers have dwindled and you wonder “Why? Why have people left me? What was it that I wrote that caused someone to hit the ‘unfollow’ button?”
Yes, I am on Twitter. But honestly, I don’t really care who dumps me or why. I do look at the numbers, but not that closely.
Until now.
A nifty tool was brought to my attention. And that tool will send you an email when you lose a follower. It will tell you who the follower is and what your last post was when they left you in the dust. The tool in question: Qwitter.
It sounds perfect for the person who wants closure. You see who left you and the last thing you wrote. And you can still get in the “last word” with the person by sending them a little nice-gram (“Why? Why did you leave me? I promise I’ll be good.”) or nastygram (“What the heck did I ever do to you to get dumped so unceremoniously? Jerk!”).
No, I will not be contacting the fools nice people who aren’t interested in my witticisms and ramblings. But I thought it might be fun to keep track of for a few days.
What about you? Do you care who leaves and why? And would you contact the jerk person who dumps you?
**11/6/08 as a follow-up…I’ve had about 4 people qwit me since this post. The first two had their emails wiped out by my evil webmail server problem so it spared my ego. The third person, I can’t remember what my last post was that precipitated the dumping. And this morning I learned I was dumped by someone after a tweet I made on drinking wine. Perhaps this person is anti-alcohol? Not sure. But I do want to point out that even Jesus drank wine…not that I’m comparing myself to Jesus. But come on, if Jesus drank a little wine, then perhaps it’s not so bad for us peeps to indulge a little.
Just sayin’.
I have been using Qwitter too for the past couple weeks or so. I don’t think it gives an accurate indication as to why folks unfollow. While it shows the last tweet you made before they unfollowed, that may or may not be the tweet that broke the camel’s back. Since they could have unfollowed because of a tweet earlier in the day or even for what you’re not tweeting. I don’t use Qwitter to find out why – and even if I knew, would it really change how I tweet? No, it wouldn’t.
I use Qwitter to know who I should UNfollow – and that would be those who have unfollowed me.
Hi Tina,
I almost decided to worry about who quits following me on Twitter until I remembered that it doesn’t really matter to me! I made the choice to be myself on Twitter, so if someone chooses to quit following me, they are just being their own authentic self as well!
I’ve had more than my share of “dumps” in my life. I don’t have the energy to stress out over Twitter dumps as well!
Teresa
@Traci – I’ve got to agree. Some people may use different applications to unfollow people…not even paying attention to the last (most recent) tweet. So it’s definitely not scientific in its determination of why a person REALLY qwit you. But I also use it to decide who to unfollow…
@Teresa – I’ve rec’d a handful of those Qwitter emails so far and the first couple I was like “What? How dare you unfollow moi!!” And now, I could give a care less. It doesn’t change a thing about what I tweet… So I’m right there with ya!
I agree with Teresa that I am not much interested in why somebody dumps me on Twitter. I try to just be myself and I never intentionally say anything mean or nasty. So if someone wants to unfollow me for whatever reason, it is fine by me. I don’t feel the need to write back to them and ask why or ask for forgiveness. There are many more interesting people out there to follow and hopefully be followed by. Like you for example.